THE LIFE OF A DBM

Last summer I met a young lady 13 years younger than me. We kicked it for about 3 months. First let me give you a little background she was doing well for a 26 year old College degree, Job, apartment and new car. So at the end of the month she had very little money. I never had her pay for anything; I even gave her money to buy a dress for her friends wedding. Let me also state for the record that we did not have sex, we did a lot of other things. Now the reason we did not have sex was first I was sleeping with two other women and second my “spider sense” told me that something is not right and you may not want to go there. I have had two stalkers in my life time so I tend to listen to that voice from time to time.

To make a long story short we broke up, after one of my parties and she saw a lot of my female friends. Now the reason she stated for the not wanting to see me is that she wanted to be like me, buy a house, have more money, and find herself to figure things out what she wanted to do with the rest of her life. (Don’t we all)

Cut to three weeks ago and I see her looking good but PREGNANT. I laughed my ass off. The fucked up part is she act likes she owes me money and runs away when I tried to say “HI”. On Saturday night I see her sister and she tell me that they still stay together in an apartment with no air condition and again she walks past me without speaking. Again I just laugh because I know that she is embarrassed knowing that she was already broke when I met her and with a child by herself (I asked her through an email the first time I saw her if she was getting married to the baby’s daddy and got no respond) she is going to be beneath broke.

I wish her the best.

This weekend I had a date with some I met online (another blog for another day) this was my second date with Ms.P. After the first date, I did not know if I was feeling her so I decided to give it another try. What a disaster, first we agreed on an 8:00 movie, I get there at 7:30 purchase the ticket and wait and wait and wait. At around 7:55 I get a call from her telling me she just left the house because her dad called with a personal matter (that is why they make cell phones so you can drive and talk at the same time). She finally makes it at about 8:45 (she got lost on the way to the theater). Strike #1

I exchange the tickets and we go to the concession stand and she complains about everything from how fattening Edy’s Dip are to the help and how kids are dumber know than they were when we were young. Strike #2

We are now watching the movie (Ocean’s Thirteen) and she TALKS through the WHOLE movie, with sound effects and questions. I wanted to be like Burt on the old television show “Soap” and disappear. Strike #3

Ms. P. broke all my rules:
1. Call if you are going to be late (especially when going to the movies)
2. Don’t complain about everything
3. BE QUIET during a movie.
Needless to say there will be no more dates with her.

P.S. The movie was alright.

My weekend
This weekend my boy came in town for Prince’s hometown Minneapolis, MN. This was his first time to the D and we had a great time. I showed him a lot of what we have to offer when it comes to women, from the hood rats to the MBA ladies. I’m telling you hanging out with my boy whom I had not seen in 3 years were like old time. It just shows me that jobs come and go but friends stay forever.

TMI Tuesday

1. What is the meanest thing you've ever done/said to a lover/loved one?
Leave her while she was gone on a weekend trip. (My ex-wife)
2. Have you ever had sex on an elevator?
Who do I look like Johnny Gill?
3. Have you ever lied about a rash and said it was a birthmark? OR Have you ever lied about a birthmark and said it was a rash?
No Janet Jackson going on here.
4. Have you ever had sex on a beach or in the water at a beach/pool?
No but I did it at a park once.
5. How old are you? How old do you feel? =P
39 but I feel 29
6. Have you or your partner been injured so badly during sex that you/they had to go to the hospital?
Never hospital injured but I have been sore the next day.
7. Have you been to a strip club or "titty bar"? (Hooters does NOT count.) If so, did you get a lap dance?
Back in the day I would go and get a lap dance but giving away money is not my thing anymore.
8. Have you ever had a "blog crush" (i.e., a crush on someone, of whatever gender, that you haven't met in person but only know through their blog)? Who? (Link, please, if you dare!) =P
Yes and her name is chubby chocolate @ http://chubbychocolate.blogspot.com

In a couple of weeks, I going to have a birthday. I'm very happy that I going to celebrate another year on this great earth. The issue is that I don't want to have a party or big whip to do. First let me state that all my friends this year have had get together or party for the same reason that they want me to do the same. They have turned the big 40. I don't want the world to know that I'm that old. Now before you call me a punk if you ask me my age I will tell, but I don't want to just freely give out that information. The funny part is that everyone is talking about me, saying that I'm over reacting. I don't care, I have nothing planned. I will probably just go to my favorite bar have a few drink and thank GOD for another year.

1. Should guys wear pink?
Yes if it is a shirt or polo short, I have a couple of pink shirts.

2. Do you kiss with your eyes open or closed?
Eyes open at first need to see what kind of responds I'm getting.

3. What is the first "non-physical" feature you tend to notice about a person you find attractive?
A matching voice. I know this is f**ked up, but if her voice does not match her features than its off.

4. Have you ever showered with someone of the opposite sex?
Of Course being a man I usually jump in the shower with a woman, (a shower cap is turnoff)

5. Would you rather receive amazing oral sex or have amazing sex?
Amazing sex involves amazing oral.

I have been in prison for three year. (not a real prison) but a prison in my mind. I had a boss for over 4 years who took away my spirit. This evil person beat me down like no other person I have ever let in my life. This person made me sick physically. I had to take many medical test, only to find out, that nothing was wrong with me. I finally quit that job three years ago and it has taken me that long to get that person out of my life and quit second guessing myself. I have decided to blog again to make the world aware that life is too short to let one person take your joy away. Quit being afraid and start living.

Could someone tell me what do Sista's want please tell me because that is the Million dollar questions. I have known this fine sista we shall call "PR". Now I love PR and everyone who knows me can attest to the fact, I want to sleep with her as bad as a crack head need crack. Before you say why don't you ask her out. I did this one night and got the line "Twin we are friends, blah blah blah",I did not hear much after that. Also all the time I have known PR she is out with her girls complaining how she can't find a man.
Well last night I see PR looking as fine as ever out with her girl. She goes and tell me that she went to St. Martin alone, telling me that she is her own best company. My minds start spinning like crazy.
1. Why waste the fun and sun of the island alone, are you looking for him?





2. You have no side dick you can call?
3. You could not call ME?
I would have gone broke for 4 days of fun,sun and PR.

Now PR is not the only sista I see around town who is all ways complaining how they are no good brothers. My question is what is wrong with YOU? Have sista set the bar so high that no brother but GOD is good enough.